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32 posts in Biblical Manhood & Leadership
Let No Man Separate
When Jesus was asked about divorce, He answered with what marriage is made of.
So That Your Prayers Will Not Be Hindered
There is a verse that connects how you treat your wife to whether your prayers get through, and most men live as if the wire is not there.
The Wife of Your Youth
The other woman has one advantage over your wife, and it is not what you think it is.
Unforgiveness Is a Door He Knows
Paul gives exactly one reason for hurrying to forgive somebody, and it is not the one you heard in church.
Stop Depriving One Another
There are only a few places in the New Testament where Satan is named inside instructions to married people. This is one of them, and it is the one your church has probably never preached.
Burn the Ledger
Every unhappy marriage I have ever gotten close enough to see had a set of books in it.
Do Not Give Him a Foothold
Scripture tells you exactly how the devil gets into a marriage. One verse, one mechanism, spelled out.
What You Know Dies With You Unless You Hand It Down
Paul wrote his last letter from a cell and spent it telling Timothy to hand everything down. A man is meant to multiply what God gave him, not bury it. Pick one man this week and start.
The Accuser in Your Living Room
The devil has a job title in Scripture, and it is not tempter.
Your Wife Is Not the Enemy
Somewhere in your house there is a war on, and you have been shooting at the wrong person.
Obedience Is Not a Place to Hide
Same cross, same vows, and a man standing in a village holding a sword. He was not a cynic. That is the part to sit with, because the mechanism was never the pope.
A Church Full of Sons and No Fathers
A generation grew up with no father in the house, then walked into a church with no fathers in it either. Programs, not men. A stage, not a table. The church was supposed to be where the fatherless finally got fathered.
Your Church Has Nothing for a Man
A man is not made by sitting still and being pleasant. He is made by being called up and sent out. If your church has nothing for you to lead, fight, or die to, read this.
You Need More Than a Motivational Quote
Some days you need more than a motivational quote. As a Christian man, that is every day. A nice feeling is the first thing to evaporate when your world catches fire. You need God's word.
Your Wife Is a Reflection of Your Leadership
It is half of a true thing men love to turn into a whole lie. You set the weather in your home. But your wife is not a mirror. She is a person.
Habits of a Godly Leader
Leadership is not built in a day. It is built daily. No man wakes up transformed. Here are six habits worth building your life on.
Your Wife Is a Gift From God. Start Treating Her Like One.
There is a treasure in your house, and a lot of men are treating it like furniture. God does not put her on the furniture list. He calls her a good thing and a gift.
Praying for Your Kids
There comes a day, faster than you think, when your prayers reach further into your kid's life than your hands ever can. That is the hardest, furthest-reaching work a father does.
The Man and the Screen: Porn, Grace, and No More Excuses
Half the men reading this fought it this week and never said a word out loud. Two things at once, no more excuses and no more shame, and the engine that frees a man.
The Church Picks Leaders Backwards
The overseer list is almost all character and one line of skill. We promote the impressive man. God asks a different question: what are you like when the lights are off, at your own front door?
Marriage Divided Cannot Stand
Most marriage fights are two teammates who forgot they are on the same team, swinging at each other while the real enemy sits back and enjoys the show.
Discipling Your Kids Without Crushing Them
Every Christian father is scared of two failures and only watches for one. He cranks down harder and crushes them. Here is how to bring them up without breaking them.
Praying for Your Wife
Ask most married men when they last prayed for their wife and you get a long pause. Not prayed about her. For her. It is one of the most important things a man does.
God and the Dishes
I threw the dishes in the trash, yelling, because they were not done. You were forgiven a mountain. Stop coming apart over a sink.
What Is a Man of Christ? The Plainest Answer I Can Give You
The word man has been argued into fog. Here is the plain answer, in black and white. Not a personality type, not how loud you are. Here is what a man of Christ actually is.
Become the Man God Wanted You to Be
God had a man in mind when He made you. You are not him yet. Here is how you close the gap. Not seven ideas to think about. Seven things to do, starting today.
When Your Wife Is the Stronger Believer
He believes it's real. He believes God is real. And he still feels like a fraud sitting beside her. Being behind your wife spiritually isn't a disqualification, it's a starting position.
When Church Discipline Disappears, Darkness Moves In
When discipline disappears, darkness is not kept outside. It moves in. It finds room to grow.
The Anger You Think You're Hiding
Nobody's been hit. Nobody could report anything. And everyone in the house is adjusting all day around one man's mood. Not hitting people is a floor, not a standard. Here's the diagnostic that tells.
If You Want to Lead Your Home, Learn to Repent First
Biblical leadership is not built on getting the final word. It is built on taking the first step.
How to Pray When You Don’t Know What to Say
Prayer is not a performance. God is not grading your vocabulary or comparing you to the man sitting across the aisle.
The Importance of Prayer in Men’s Lives